Jun 27, 2020
How long does it take to have an uncontested divorce processed by the court system in New York after both parties sign the papers? Is there anything that can be done to expedite the court process (such as an expediting fee)?
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My husband filed for an uncontested divorce; a judgment was granted in May 2003. My husband didn’t file the divorce papers with the Ulster County clerk. Therefore the papers were never certified. The clerk’s office does not have a record of the divorce, and I have not received any documents. Am I still considered legally married? Is there a time frame in which these forms must be returned and certified to be valid? Will I have to file for divorce again? Also, he remarried in an Islamic ceremony and is living with a woman as husband and wife, what do I do? Please help!
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My divorce story is very unusual and almost from a cheap horror category. I have been married for 16 years, for the past 13 years living in Texas in Tarrant County. During this time, I have been supported by my husband, although in 1993, I acquired some shares in a computer company run by my brother in Poland. From time to time, I have traveled to Poland to visit my parents, my brother, his family, and to see how the business was doing. My husband did not object to such activities; on the contrary, he has encouraged them. So when my brother asked me to oversee the business for a while, my husband was all for it. He provided me with an airline ticket, advising me to take as much time as I need to help my brother.
My husband and I were in touch through the phone and E-mails for several months, and nothing indicated what he had planned. One day the letter has arrived at my parents’ apartment from the Texas Court. It was a Final Decree of Divorce. From it, I found out I have been divorced, and he has been awarded the house which we have bought together and almost everything we owned. I have been awarded the business in Poland( apparently he has lied to the court, making it believe I have been making a fortune ), which has not generated for me any income. I have been awarded a rental place! ( another lie, to make the court believe I owned the place of business)
in which my brother has been running the business and my personal belongings. The credit cards have been canceled. I have been left homeless and penniless, overnight, and in a foreign country. I went for my trip with one suitcase, all of my papers such as social security number and everything else of importance has been left in the house, my valuable jewelry, pieces of art, etc.. How was it possible for him to get a divorce, without my participation in the proceedings, how did he convince the court of not awarding me anything of value after such a long marriage? It has been almost two years after the divorce. I have been in deep depression just coming out of it, still staying in Poland, asking for advice, what should I do? He has cut any contact with me. I cannot even reclaim my personal belongings. Please do advise me what my legal options are. Could you recommend an attorney who could take the case against my liar husband ( or against the State of Texas) on the contingency fee basis?
Jun 27, 2020
My husband and I got married in Las Vegas on October 11, 2003. We were just buddies, we knew it wasn’t a good idea, but we did it anyway. We’ve had enough now, and we need a divorce. He loves the conveniences my income provides him, but he’s not in love with me. We purchased nothing since we married (so there’s nothing to split or divide between us). We have no children either. I now know that he has a serious drinking problem (he openly admits it and is seeking outpatient help). Unfortunately, his drinking has interfered with his relationships for as long back as he can remember, and he is not succeeding with any of the programs he’s tried. Frighteningly, when he drinks, he is also very violent. He has been so with me as well, to the point where I’ve embarrassingly had to call the police to quiet him down (twice) upon my return home from the hospital after having suffered a near-fatal heart attack. Since my return from the hospital two weeks ago, he has been drunk on three separate occasions (last night being the most recent). His drinking is highly dangerous to my condition considering the cardiologist told him I was not to be upset in any way. I’ve been taken back to cardiac ICU by ambulance since my release as a direct result of his drinking behavior. His ex-wife and two boys live a few blocks away from us. Now that I have met his ex-wife, I can say clearly that she is a fine person that has done an excellent job single-handedly raising their two boys. I have not told my family (my parents, uncles, colleagues) that I have married this man because I know this will not last. I thought it best to divorce quietly and for us each to get on with our lives. He agrees. He is sad about not being able to succeed with his sobriety and states that he understands that I must move on. Tell me how much this will cost since we’re not arguing against each other and are in agreement. We live on Staten Island.
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My boyfriend and I live in Columbia County, NY, and his wife lives in Schoharie County, NY. They have a legal separation since 1985. They have two children who have been with foster parents since then. Their ages are 20 and 21 at this time. She filed for a divorce a week ago. My question is, do you think they could be divorced quickly? We want to marry ASAP? Thank you.
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My mother needs to get old divorce papers she filed back in 1981. She was divorced in the State of New York. She needs those papers, where can she get those papers? Thank you for your help.
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I would like to ask, what is the time frame to remarry after you signed the divorce papers? I reside in NYC, and just recently signed my divorce papers in May. I want to remarry right away, but I don’t know how long I have to wait. My Ex and I did an uncontested divorce, but he won’t give me any more info about it, so I would like to know how long I have to wait. Thank you
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SERVICE OF PROCESS Can you tell me if it is possible to serve a defendant in Kazakhstan personally? A family member who is not a party to the divorce is going to meet with the husband in October. It is a little like an international spy game, the wife has only a cell phone number for the husband for the past two years, and he wires money for the support of the children but is otherwise untraceable. He cannot be lured back to NY to accept service and court previously rejected service by publication. Any ideas on how to approach this?
Jun 27, 2020
COURT COSTS My lawyer told me that because of increased court costs, it will cost me $150 more now. Can you just tell me if the filing costs have gone up?
Jun 27, 2020
I live in Brooklyn, NY. I served my husband with divorce papers last February 15 in court for my husband’s appearance regarding a Family Court Order of Protection I’d gotten on him. After this, he broke that order, as well as the Criminal court order of protection given me for breaking that one. I was advised to plea bargain him by both my lawyer and the Brooklyn DA on the case, for the breaking of both Orders, to save his NYC Fire Marshal job, which I did do. I am, however, extremely worried now if that was the right thing to do, as I thought my lawyer had intended on our bringing the real charges against him later on, as he kept telling me one step at a time when I would explain to him my fears. The new threats I’d discovered my husband implemented. I’d only found out other charges were not brought against him when the DA told me the night before I was advised to plea bargain him, that there weren’t any additional charges (even though I’d explained everything that happened to the precinct detectives and D A on a couple of occasions. The DA kept telling me I should bring him my evidence, yet never allowed me to by just stringing me along till the night before he was to be plea-bargained for breaking the Orders. My husband was, however, made to go into a batterers program by the judge. Now my lawyer seems to think it is ok to settle the visitation aspect of our divorce with unsupervised visits after 90 days of supervised visits with my sister. My kids fear him, as well do I, but I am told I could always go back to family court if somethings not working out concerning his
doing anything… I am also advised that I need not worry about my Order of Protection as if he does anything, I should just call the police. But that scares me because he likes to sabotage my house and cars sneakily, or follow me, etc. and so I cant catch him that easily. I am told that he had also stolen an FDNY surveillance camera from his Fire Marshal job to use on me (as I had suspected he had in the past). Another unsuspecting female came to me and told me he drugged her to video having sex with him, without her knowledge, I assumed he did it to get back at me because I discovered his recorders. He had his police buddy edit it and put it on an official NYC police DVD, which just happened to all fall in my lap. I hadn’t even known what I had at the time (this time last year) because he told me it was just another of the tape recorders he had on me at first. After all my complaints to the civilian complaint review board ( as his threats to throw away his job by doing something crazy, or to use it against me and other’s, as well as to kill people, forced me to seek help because people were following me and trying to get what I had found. I went for my order of protection out of sheer fear, even though he kept changing his mind back and forth as to whether he wanted it back or not. Investigators from OCCB did come to speak to me twice regarding the cop’s involvement, as well to look at the DVD …yet no one ever came to talk to me about my husband ..the main culprit, even though I was told they would. My husband had been extremely physically, mentally, and emotionally abusive to me for years right in front of my children, having hit me, choked me, and punched me on numerous occasions., as well as breaking things in the house directly and sneakily. I thought he’d lost his mind from when he worked as a corrections officer (as he’d often grab me the way an officer would grab an inmate), or from 9/11, or alcohol. I thought
He didn’t know what he was doing when he’d get so abusive and threatening and crazy. Which is why there are only three police reports since 2002. I was always afraid to call the police on him. He would gaslight me and make me think I was crazy and that he could read my mind as he often had tape-recorded the house, cars, and phones on and off for years…all of which I now happened to have him on tape admitting. But my lawyer never wanted even to hear any of it and now advising that I give the FDNY camera back to my husband, who told me he had bought another to replace it until he returned the one with serial numbers on it, His lawyer had told mine six months ago that he had to get the camera back then to save his job…But I knew they’d never fire him just from all he’d already gotten away with. I’d found out just before plea bargaining him last June that the FDNY is claiming they know nothing about any missing camera now….yet my husband is threatening me about it still today. We’re not even supposed to talk because of my Order of Protection, but we have been because I am trying to settle our divorce case without us financially losing everything, of which I feel like I am on trial. After all, I seem to have to prove truths and disprove his lies to my lawyer continually. Its been since last February and today was the first meeting ever with him and his lawyer to discuss things, as depositions have been constantly canceled and pushed ahead ( by his lawyer…my lawyer says…by my lawyer, my husband says) my lawyer tells me that I do not want to go to trial. Implying that it will cost more than we can afford, as my husband showed up last February after the order of protection with a high priced lawyer. I even have my husband admitting to forcing himself on me and threatening to kill people and have them arrested on tape, as well as breaking both Orders of protection. When the police came each time he broke the Orders of Protection to arrest him,
they changed their minds once they saw who he was, as he knows many in that precinct because its where his Marshal base is. Had I not persisted and gotten cameras around my house to video him breaking the order, or tape him breaking it, he wouldn’t even have been arrested for either of those. He’d deliberately put himself in rehab for alcoholism three times before all this just because he’d attacked me in a candy store, and the police were called by patrons who pulled him off me (all because I discovered he had a date). He was arrested for breaking through our rental property not long after his third stay in rehab (and the third time he was thrown out of the sober houses the FDNY made me force him to stay in, instead of allowing his home which at the time I thought only angered him more towards me but was just a way to afford him the ability to come here sneakily and begin taping me and videoing me again (as after his third, thirty day rehab stays, when I caught him cheating with someone he met there, he came home being abusive and then urged me to find someone else because he didn’t want to hurt me anymore he said and wanted me to be happy and for us to do our own thing, as he’d done before.) But Right now my biggest worry is that my lawyer is urging me to settle without supervised visits of my three kids who won’t even pick up the phone to his court scheduled times to call daily, and fear his temper, and drinking, and haven’t seen him since the last January because the one time a supervised visit was even scheduled with my sister as a supervisor, he ended up having to work he said afterward. When he calls, they won’t get on the phone, and he tells me not to force them. The anger at me for even talking with him for fear he will “trick ” me again, they say. I am trying to settle our issues so as not to hurt either of you