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My boyfriend, who has been separated from his wife for more than a year, finally got his papers for divorce last week. In the documents, his bitter wife wrote inhuman and cruel treatment. (we all live in the state of New York Rochester to be exact) he’s had enough with her and just wants to officially not be connected to her. Although he doesn’t agree with the reason, he said he would sign it and mail it back to the divorce lawyer to get it over. We don’t have money for a lawyer; they have no kids, no house, no assets basically, and the debt they had. They split it in half and have no ties.
We did not know all this divorce terminology and called the same divorce lawyer who said he would not have to go to court, and it will be an easy divorce. (I am unsure if he was looking at the interest of the divorcee or divorcer) anyway, we wanted to get married eventually. We were wondering if he needs to think twice about what he is about to sign; especially if he doesn’t agree with it (will he go to jail for admitting inhuman and cruel treatment even though that is not the case?) is it a clean divorce since they don’t have any tips? Would it jeopardize him when he remarries in this same state? And is there even such thing as having a divorce and not even going to a court? How long does this usually take from when he does sign? Sorry for all the questions we called a legal aide who said to go ahead and sign it there should not be a problem, but I can’t help but think there is another meaning to her (wife) ways and if she tried to trick him since she was holding out for so long and is upset he is moving on? Please help.

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 I was told that you answer questions about divorce. I would very much like your help. I was married in NY. State in May of 1998. We all still live there. The marriage produced two children. I have walked out on him due to an online extra-marital with a woman. We have gone to family court, and we both have joint legal custody of the children. I have asked for a divorce, but he has refused. I do not wish to change the custody arrangements. However, my question is: how may I secure a divorce as soon as possible? I was told by a friend it was possible to go to Reno, Nevada, and receive one immediately without his signature. Is that doable? If not, how else can I obtain one asap? Thank you.

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My boyfriend and I have been together since 2000. I found out he is married. He moved in with me. His wife knew about me and called my home. He went back to her. They took a vacation together. He came back to me. They sold their marital home and split the money 50/ 50. He moved into an apartment. I moved in with him. They have not seen or spoken to each other in over ten years. She bought a new home. He bought a new home. What would the grounds for divorce be? I am under the impression that it could not be for adultery since she slept with him after she knew about me. How can divorce proceedings be started without him having to speak with her?

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 My husband of 3 years and I separated because of his infidelity. I have phone records, emails, etc. as proof. We married and resided in NYC. If I sue him for divorce because he committed adultery, what does that entitle me? We have no children and did not own a home or anything else together. Is there anything to gain by making this the reason we’re divorcing, or is it the same if I just go the friendly route and claim irreconcilable differences? Please advise. 

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Please tell me what can be done in my sad situation: My is name is Anna, I have a question to ask, I’m with a mature gentleman who’s legally married but separated. He told me he’d rather send legal wife her money because he feels threatened that she is going to take him to the poor house because he receives his veteran’s check, social security, and job pension, and that’s the real reason why he cannot divorce her. He lives in Puerto Rico, and his wife lives in Buffalo, New York. Note: They never had children together, I live in New York City, and he has been separated from her for a very long time. Before me, he formulated another relationship after his separation, and all the while, he remained married paying alimony. My concern is I talked to him about why he should divorce because she has eight adult children of her own from a previous marriage; he married her for her religious reasons when he fell in love with her. He doesn’t own any real estate property that I’m aware of, and now his legal wife receives social security because she is also a mature lady plus alimony.
I’m not a homewrecker; their marriage dissolved way before I came into the picture. And now they live miles away from each other for several years. I told him to find a lawyer in Puerto Rico or here to help because I don’t want to be the other woman. I want to be the new legal wife. When he was living in Buffalo, New York, before moving to Puerto Rico, he fell seriously ill with a heart problem. He was hospitalized, his back then common-law wife if you will, couldn’t stay at the hospital to be by his bedside because his separated “wife” after learning what happened to him showed up, declaring her status as being his wife. She showed proof, therefore stopping anyone she didn’t want there from seeing him. She did nothing for him but get her alimony money. That’s not right, but it proves that the title “wife” carries a lot of weight.
He said that a judge signed an order for legal separation and that he has to support her whether he likes it or not and that a divorce is impossible, but he never showed me any paperwork proof, etc., stating or proving that it’s true. Seeing is believing, but I decided that if he doesn’t want to get a divorce because he is scared of losing more money to her and that it is an uncomfortable, complicated, costly process for him, I’m not going to press on insisting, I know when no means no, and I’ll leave it alone. And I assume that he doesn’t love me enough to get a divorce, and I will pursue to have a new relationship with a man who is not married or legally divorce with papers to prove it, so I don’t have to write to no lawyer. I know that Ex-New York State Governor Paterson signed a revised divorce order, perhaps that can hopefully change things. She’s tossed in Buffalo, he’s retired and lives in Puerto Rico going on four years over there, I can’t understand why he can’t divorce? I suppose she would have to pay a lawyer if she wants to contest. I believe that he can get a divorce if he wants to since they don’t live in the same place, but you know more than me. I hope you can give me some good news. Thank you.

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I am writing this on behalf of my daughter. We live overseas. Our daughter is in an H1B visa, staying iN.Y.NY from June 2013. She said she married one guy who is on a student visa just two weeks ago (November 06, 2015) without our (parents) knowledge. She was in love with the guy for many years, but our parents did not approve of it due to religious grounds. She was complaining about depression from a few months. She might have married the guy during depression or by some pressure, or the guy is a fraud as we are wealthy. Two days after the marriage, she called us & told me that she urgently got married because she thought we would take her back from the United States as we were supposed to arrive in NY in November. We planned this trip in early September with the consent of our daughter to stay with her for two weeks. Surprisingly, she made a hasty decision. In this case, is there any way our daughter can get annulment or divorce immediately? We are trying to find out why & what exactly made She made such a hasty decision. If it is because of depression, is the marriage valid? We were told she was not taking any medication for depression, but she used to call depression hotline. What sort of documented evidence is required to prove she signed a marriage license during the depression? Or the guy is a fraud, may be interested in our property or using our daughter’s H1B visa to get shelter after his studies, etc. If she is willing to accept that she made a hasty decision without clearly thinking about the future consequences, in what ground can we help to get divorce or annulment? How long would it take? How much would it cost?
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I recently got married at the NYC city hall two weeks ago. We were a happy couple until we started talking about finances together. He refused to support me financially and called my parents to help me until I complete my education. In this process, my husband’s hatred towards me became overboard and became verbally abusive and threatening. We are not currently living together, but I could not stop thinking about the chances of physical abuse if I were to be around him. I am scared to stay in this marriage. He also wanted to end this marriage. Should we go for annulment or divorce? Thank you.
 

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 My soon to be ex-wife and I moved to New York 7 months ago for the greater good of our two-year-old, and right before we left, she asked me for a divorce. She filed first having a divorce lawyer as a family friend in California. What state has jurisdiction? I have to respond to the filing in 10 days. Do I have to respond at the California courthouse, or can I mail them in now that I live in NY? Mediation is done through the telephone in California. Any advice would be much appreciated. Thanks in advance.

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