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Oct 30, 2018

Question #61: Could I use a paralegal to get a divorce after being separated 3 years, we have no children together, house has been turned over to me. He, up and left us 3 years ago. Leaving all financial responsibilities to me. What I would like to do is get a cheap divorce, free and clear, as so does he.

Like most other things in life – you get what you pay for! There are important personal as well as legal issues which must be discussed, reviewed and settled in a legally binding agreement before a couple can get divorced and be assured that they will not regret having taken the cheap way out. This […]

Oct 30, 2018

Question #60: I have been married for 10 years and have endured verbal abuse for at least 7 of those years. The last 2 years, he feels that he has tried to improve his behavior, but I feel that the damage has been done. I no longer love him. Under what grounds in NYS can I file for divorce ? There are assets to be divided and 2 young children whose custody needs to be worked out. I would like to go through mediation – are there any “rules” where mediation cannot be used ? My husband does not feel that divorce is needed because he has made efforts to change and is quite hostile about the idea. Please help. Thanks

It is not uncommon for one party to be more advanced in the process and decision to divorce than the other but it does not mean they will never agree to divorce. Once your husband understands that you are serious and the marriage cannot continue he will be forced to deal with the situation and […]

Oct 30, 2018

Question #59: My wife and I plan to separate after a 3 year marriage. What are the procedures and do we have to acquire the services of a private professional mediator? We do not have any children or any assets to speak of. What is the least expensive and quickest way to do this? Also, I was told that you have to be legally separated for a year before moving on to a divorce. Is that true?

I strongly recommend that you seek out an experienced, attorney-mediator in your area to mediate your divorce and prepare the Separation Agreement and Divorce Papers. The matters are too serious to do by yourselves and you want to be sure that you have finality so you can get on with your individual lives. You do […]

Oct 30, 2018

Question #58: Thank you, I recently learned about mediation, and how it may be an better alternative to a court battle. My concern is, my wife is still in Indiana. I am not sure how it can be done, from what I have read, mediation is done with both spouses present. I thank you for your time.

I have successfully conducted mediations with couples in different states through telephone conferencing . Let me know if you would like to discuss the matter further. Leonard M. Weiner, Esq./ Divorce Solutions

Oct 30, 2018

Question #57: I have been married for 4 years. My husband and I have been separated for close to 3 years now. I moved in with my mother 3 years ago because he is in the military and was stationed on a ship. We have a 4 year old son and no real assets. My husband isn’t ‘sure’ he wants to continue our marriage so I asked him for a divorce. I don’t know if he has been unfaithful or not and when I mentioned divorce he seemed hesitant. I’m not sure I’m willing to allow him custody and how this should be handled. I would appreciate some expert advice. Thanks

You have a child and you owe it to him to try to preserve your marriage if you can. Try going to a marriage counsellor with your husband to see if the marriage can be saved. If it cannot,and you are living in the NYC metro area, give me a call at 212-370-1660 and we […]

Oct 30, 2018

Question #56: I’m at a loss…I am married for 18 years and know my wife for 23. We started with nothing and now I own a business as well as a building and other assets. I understand these will be split equally in some way. My real issue isn’t the money, she supported me and stayed home with the kids and contributed to our marrage. My issue is my children, as much as I know me and my wife just can’t get along anymore. We have tried counseling and it just doesn’t seem to work but I would do anything for my kids, 14, 13, 6. I would fight for custody but I don’t want to put my kids through it, I much rather have an amcicable seperation and divorce and move on, but she doesn’t seem willing to do that. I live in NY; I feel totally lost. No offense to you, but picking out a laywer isn’t easy… there’s no way to know who to trust. How do I resume my life in peace and not hurt my kids mentally? I need direction before I lose what little self worth I have left. Thanks for listening.

I strongly suggest that you consider mediating your divorce with an experienced attorney- mediator rather than each party hiring an attorney and battling it out in court. You will get no satisfaction from court. Only the attorneys win – not the clients and as soon as your money runs out you will be forced to […]

Oct 30, 2018

Question #55: How long is the process of divorce in ny city? What are the costs? Can divorce been done without a lawyer?

The process can take anywhere from a few months to years depending on the cooperation of the parties, the compexity of the outstanding issues to be resolved between them, and the experience of the attorneys involved. I strongly recommend you consider mediating your divorce, which will be quicker, cheaper, and less emotionally straining than a […]

Oct 30, 2018

Question #54: My husband and I have been married for a year and a half. Two months ago I found out that he has been unfaithful throughout the entirety of our marriage, and this relationship has even existed while we were engaged. To complicate things even further, I am five months pregnant with our first child. Please advise as to what legal actions I must take to get the ball rolling on a divorce.

Since you are going to have a child you owe it to the child to see if there is some way to save the marriage, perhaps trying marriage counselling. If you have tried this or do not believe it is possible to save the marriage, you should mediate the divorce with an attorney-mediator experienced in […]

Oct 30, 2018

Question #53: I am an immigrant, I came to USA by permanent resident visa from my wife side. I was married for 11 years out of that we both lived together for 5 years. Since I came to this country my wife mostly stayed away from me. I have two sons. My wife is working for the past 3 years on and off. Since we do not have any emotional and physical relation, I was requesting her for divorce. But she and her parents are threatening me saying, they will inform at my work as I am abusing her and refusing to give divorce. Even though we live under same roof, we are like strangers. I am ready to provide child support to my sons or I will happily take my sons custody but they are refusing it. Please give me your advice, what to do.

I think you owe it to your children to try family couselling first to see if you can reconstruct your marriage. If that fails, I strongly suggest that you discuss with her divorce mediation which is a civil way of separating and divorcing. Don’t be afraid of the idle threats from your in-laws. They will […]

Oct 30, 2018

Question #52: In a divorce, should my attorney attend mediation? What if my wife insists that her attorney attend mediation, am I at a disadvantage not having my attorney with me?

Generally, it is better if neither attorney is present so that the parties can begin the process of relating and problem solving under the new conditions of separation. The attorneys will only complicate that process. The attorneys may be consulted by each party before making final decisions but should preferably not participate in the discussions […]

LEONARD M.WEINER, ESQ, Ph.D.

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MEDIATION V. LITIGATION - DIVORCE SOLUTIONS SERVICES

Question #58: Thank you, I recently learned about mediation, and how it may be an better alternative to a court battle. My concern is, my wife is still in Indiana. I am not sure how it can be done, from what I have read, mediation is done with both spouses present. I thank you for your time.

Question #55: How long is the process of divorce in ny city? What are the costs? Can divorce been done without a lawyer?

Question #52: In a divorce, should my attorney attend mediation? What if my wife insists that her attorney attend mediation, am I at a disadvantage not having my attorney with me?