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Oct 29, 2018

Question #200: Hello, I live in Brooklyn New York…I have been married for7 and a half years..and my husband( 60 yrs.) and I ( 59 yrs.) both agree that we should get a divorce…sex and conversation is the big issue here with us. out of the 7 yr. marriage we have had sex with each other less then 15 times, in this 7 and a half years..I’m the one that needs the sex more then that, and my husband agrees with me also..Plus he always falls asleep on me when I’m talking to him.. Is it alright for use to live together while getting a divorce? We get along better as friends..we both agree. Please help us… Thank You.

Sounds like you need a romantic vacation together not a divorce! Have you tried marriage counseling? If divorce is really the only solution, give me a call at 212-370-1660 to arrange for a meeting to discuss the Divorce process. Leonard Weiner, Esq/Divorce Solutions

Oct 29, 2018

Question #173: I went through a New York divorce a few years ago, and the unnecessary stress and financial burden incurred was ridiculous. The so-called “adversarial” lawyers dragged out the proceedings, but it was clear, in court, that they and the judge were all buddies. My ex and I paid out a combined $20,000 and wasted two years of our lives in a contested divorce (I filed using grounds of cruel and inhuman treatment; the divorce was granted, however, using “abandonment” as grounds.) The whole game was so painful, I felt as though I should have sued the State of New York for cruel and inhuman treatment. Now one of my children is contemplating divorce. Please, New York State, don’t torture her the way you tortured her father and me!

Have them consider mediation. It’s a whole lot better and cheaper and much more civilized! Leonard Weiner, Esq./Divorce Solutions

Oct 29, 2018

Question #66: Hello, I am going to try and keep this as short as possible. I have been married to my husband for approximately 5 months and I am considering a divorce. We have dated since I was 22 years old, I am now 29 he is 36. We have a 4 year old daughter together, and I have a son from a previous relationship who is 12. He has a daughter from a previous relationship who will be 12 in August, and has custody of. We have never lived together. We recently signed a lease on June 15 for one year. I moved most of my stuff in, but I do not “live” there yet. He will move his stuff in on sat the 21st of june. He is verbally abusive, and will not talk to me at times. In the past he has hit me and I even got a order of protection from him and one for my daughter. He had threathened to kick her across the lawn. He was mad he said. Anyway, we got back together a year after that happened. Long story short, I forgave him. He was seeming to do better. I broke it off kind of though because I told him that we either need to get married or move on so we got married and he said he was going to change. I talked to him about various things pertaining to marriage. Well he lied, because things have been bad, and I realize that it was a big mistake. Would it be easier to not officially move in, so that I will have a better chance at gaining custody of my daughter, as well as not complicating things more. I believe that he will get physically violent again because I will not let him have his way. He gets mad and does not know how to handle it except by being violent. I do not want him to touch me sexually either so I do not think it would be wise to move in because that will really upset him. I feel trapped, depressed I just do not know what to do. I would suggest counseling, but he does not see anything that he does as wrong, he says that I am the problem, and that I make him act that way. Please help. How much does a divorce generally cost. We have no accounts together, and have not acquired any bills together, we have no assets together. Just the 4 year old child. I do not work now, and when I do I only make about 5,000 dollars. He makes about 58 thousand. I am a student. Thank you

For the sake of your four-year-old child which you have together, you should make every attempt to seek family counseling to resolve the conflict. If after you have done so, or you feel that it is useless to make such an attempt, you should seek a competent divorce attorney- mediator to help you go through […]

Oct 27, 2018

Question #56: I have a big dilemma…When I was eight months pregnant I was suspicious of my husband cheating. To make that loooong story short on January 20th of this year I found out that my suspiciousness was true. He had no choice but to confess that he was cheating. I will be married 8 years this December. We have two children together. A four year old and a 11 month old. I have been laid off from my job since October 2005 since the layoff I stood home for 3 months with our children and we both agreed that I finish up my graduate studies and attend graduate school full time. I finished up my masters in may 2006. It was difficult trying to manage grad school, two children and a whole load of other things while going though something so horrible like what my husband did to me. I wanted to leave but was so scared that I couldn’t take care of myself or the girls on my own. I was sooo confused. I could not believe that my so-called best friend had hurt me this deeply. At the time I was just getting unemployment. Now I am searching for a job to save money and divorce him. I don’t know what types of stipulations I should ask for…I do want full custody of my girls, I do want him to help maintain them too. We also have a home together that we purchased in June of 2004. I don’t want to leave my home. Can we divorce and I live here with my daughters. Do we have to sell so that we can get our even share of our investment? I just feel that he does not deserve anything being that he F-up (excuse my language.) I know who the correspondent is and yes she admitted she cheating with my husband. They both work at the same job. Can I divorce him with adultery? Is it too late? Will it be too late when I am ready to leave? Thank you.

For the sake of the children it’s important to try to see if you can reconstruct your trust and relationship with your spouse. Since you confronted him and he has admitted his guilt, has he expressed any remorse? Is he willing to commit to absolutely refrain from such activity in the future? These are questions […]

Oct 27, 2018

Question #21: My wife and I were married a year ago (NY state)and recently had a child who is three months of age. Due to postpartum depression it is impossible to reconcile our differences. What are our best choices? separation, divorce? I would only presume that the child is at an early age that she would be granted custody, correct? What can i do? Would I have a case against her depression? We both make equal pay, what should i expect in child support?

From what you indicate, you are married a very short time and you have just had, within the last three months, a baby born to both of you. Your wife may be suffering from postpartum depression, and she needs your help and love more than ever. For your child’s sake, if not for the sake […]

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