Question #56: I’m at a loss…I am married for 18 years and know my wife for 23. We started with nothing and now I own a business as well as a building and other assets. I understand these will be split equally in some way. My real issue isn’t the money, she supported me and stayed home with the kids and contributed to our marrage. My issue is my children, as much as I know me and my wife just can’t get along anymore. We have tried counseling and it just doesn’t seem to work but I would do anything for my kids, 14, 13, 6. I would fight for custody but I don’t want to put my kids through it, I much rather have an amcicable seperation and divorce and move on, but she doesn’t seem willing to do that. I live in NY; I feel totally lost. No offense to you, but picking out a laywer isn’t easy… there’s no way to know who to trust. How do I resume my life in peace and not hurt my kids mentally? I need direction before I lose what little self worth I have left. Thanks for listening.

I strongly suggest that you consider mediating your divorce with an experienced attorney- mediator rather than each party hiring an attorney and battling it out in court. You will get no satisfaction from court. Only the attorneys win – not the clients and as soon as your money runs out you will be forced to settle! Have your spouse look at the website ”” and get an idea of what the alternative is to divorce litigation . If you are located in the NYC metro area, please call me at 212-370-1660 to arrange for an appointment to meet with both of you to discuss the matter in greater length. I can help.
Leonard M. Weiner, Esq./Divorce Solutions