Divorce Solutions

Jun 27, 2020

Question #155

Hi, I have a question regarding financial issues and would like to know if you can help me with it. My husband and I have been married for over five years, but no children. We live in NY. During our marriage, we have had too many fights, and I can’t take it anymore. I have been working full-time throughout the entire marriage, but my husband makes about ten times more than I do. We purchased an apartment together AFTER our marriage, and it is under both of our names. BUT, my husband says that if I want a divorce, he will not give me any shares of the apartment. He had an apartment before our marriage (not in my name) and sold it to buy this apartment. He claims that he contributed much more money to the down payment and mortgage than me, and therefore I will not be granted half of the apt. However, I do contribute to the monthly maintenance (about 1/3 of the monthly mortgage payment), as well as many of our household expenses. My question is: will I be granted half of the market value of the apt? My husband also has stocks and bonds (some purchased after the marriage), investments in restaurants as well as real estate properties (also some after the marriage), retirement, a large sum of cash reserves in saving accounts/CDs. But all accounts are under his name regardless before or after the marriage. Am I entitled half of the money/profits he earned AFTER we got married (we have no prenup)? Also, although I can support myself, once we separate or have a divorce, I will not be able to afford to buy an apt. Will I be granted any spousal support? Many thanks!

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Jun 27, 2020

Question #166

My wife and I have been separated for the last year and six months, and we have an eight-year-old son that we share taking care of him. My wife has moved into her apartment while I’m still in the house. I guess my question is, I would like to retain the house, or if I decided to sell it, can I get a little more scene I been paying all the bills for the last 18 months and if there anything I can do to keep the house because we were not married when we first move in the house and she still has the maiden name on the deed.

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Jun 27, 2020

Question #171

My ex-wife and I filed for an uncontested divorce in PA. It was finalized last year, Aug 2005. We were told that property distribution did not need to be done as both of us wanted to remain in our house with our kids. Now she has had her boyfriend move in, and my boys and I want to move. She says that I am not entitled to anything because the divorce is final. What rights do I have?

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Jun 27, 2020

Question #174

My ex & I divorced in Kansas about 2 yrs ago, she agreed, and I was awarded the house. I did not get the house put in my name because I feared bank reaction. She also did not sign a quitclaim deed, as stated in the divorce decree. She took the paperwork to the house and sat on the Internet and researches divorce stuff. I’d now like to sell and move she’s holding paperwork hostage and now asking for half of the sale (formerly 1/2 of profit [probably a break-even sale as truck she got-loan rolled into house payments about six months before divorce [approx $16,000]. Now she just says half of the sale. Neither one of us followed through, as we should have after divorce. I’m not sure I even received official divorce papers, but what if anything can I do now. One realtor said take decree to county deed office? Will they require quitclaim? And once again, I’m worried about mortgage co. My credit not great after divorce although I’ve been the only one making payments before and after divorce.

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Jun 27, 2020

Question #179

I have been married for 16 years to my current husband. I just recently discovered he is having an affair. This affair is his second (that I know) affair in the past two years. He wants a divorce. This is the complicated part. Many years back, we had decided that I would stay home to raise our children. When the time came, I did just that. Sixteen years later, eight kids, two college degrees for him, and lost opportunities for my career advancement, he decides he doesn’t want this marriage any longer (He is continuing his affair). I am unemployed and need time to develop skills to reenter the job market. He is planning to put the house up for sale and move-on with his life. How can I protect my kids and me from having him leave us homeless and without financial resources? Can I regain some monetary value for helping him advance in his career while I was the responsible one at home? Should I file for separation if I ask him to leave the house?

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Jun 27, 2020

Question #184

Hi. I live in NY, have been with my husband for 16 years, and married for 14. The house that we live in was my grandmother’s house, which was passed to my parents. I bought the house for $1 from my parents one month after my marriage, as it was a stipulation in their divorce. I have lived in the house my entire life. The deed and the mortgage are both in my name alone. He worked throughout the marriage, but jumped from job to job and hardly contributed any money toward the bills. He spent everything he made on himself and his toys. My question is: What chance do I have to keep the house and not have to give him anything? There are two children, and they will be staying with me. Thank you for any information you can provide.

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Jun 27, 2020

Question #185

My husband and I have been married 12 years. I have a 19-year-old daughter and a 15-year-old son from a prior marriage. We have an 11-year-old together. My husband has never contributed monetarily or emotionally to the raising of my two older children. He has also not financially to the expenses of our 11-year-old. The only items he’s contributed to are $800.00 for summer camp and 1/2 of his football tuition (for the first time this year), I alone pay for my daughter’s full-time college tuition/board and expenses. I buy all of the children’s clothing, shoes, spending money, car, etc.
• My husband pays most of the household bills, and I pay approximately $ 2000 per month toward the mortgage (he pays about $400). I also buy all the food for the house. I desperately want a divorce and have instituted proceedings 2x’s. We start counseling, and nothing changes. My husband will NOT leave the house, and I am having a tough time handling living w/ him. Can I leave the house with my two children (the oldest is away at school)? I would stay in the same town, so I am not attempting to keep him from his child, I merely cannot live w/ him anymore. Also, I make substantially more than my husband, approximately $136,000 (inc. bonus) to his $70,000. This is the reason he gives for the total disparity in the amount of money he contributes. However, due to the difference in our expenses, he has more disposable income than I do. Also, I have made all repairs to the house. He will not pay for anything, and my house is falling into disrepair. Please advise.

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Jun 27, 2020

Question #186

My divorces become final in August of 2006. In my divorce decree, it states that my ex-husband has to transfer the house into my name and to remove his name from the house. It also says that he has to transfer the deed into my name within 30 days. As you can see, it is well past 30 days. What can I do to get the house in my name? Also, can I sell the house even if he hasn’t signed the papers to transfer (my name was never on the house) and only use the divorce decree to sell the house?

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Jun 27, 2020

Question #198

My wife and moved to Florida from NY State, and shortly after being here, I found that my wife was having an affair with her boss. He owns the real estate office, and she works for him. Now before moving to Florida, we listed the house thru him. Well, I’m not on the deed which is not a problem, but the problem comes in is that once he found a buyer, he convinced her to quick deed the property to him so he can sell it four weeks later for alot more money so that when we go to divorce court, it shows that she made no money on the house. Now my question here also as a licensed broker and having an affair with my wife using his business to help her dispose of a marital asset could he lose his license for that. All allegations can be proven. She quick- deeded the property to him for 252,000, and he sold it five weeks later for 289,900. He is holding on to the monies till our divorce is final. Do I have a criminal case here? Please help me.

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Jun 27, 2020

Question #200

I live in NY and have two children in the ’20s. My husband was having financial difficulties with his businesses in 2002. Instead of listening to the advice of his corporate lawyers, he left me a note that hinted at suicide and stated that he was going, and he just didn’t leave; he became a missing person. The police found him four months later 300 miles from our house cooking at a restaurant and hanging out in the bars at night with a group of 20-year-olds ( we are in our 40’s). He left me with no income and an 18-year-old son in college. I had to get a job, and the banks foreclosed on his businesses because none of the companies were in my name and was never involved with them. This forced bankruptcy beyond my control.
• I was a fool and took him back but never could trust him, and when I told him how I felt, he said get over it, and he should never have come back. After three years of trying to save the marriage, I realized I would never trust him, and I told him I wanted to separate, and he told me to get out. I refused to leave, and one night when I wasn’t home, he locked me out. He would not let me in to get anything. I called the police many times, and they said to get a lawyer and tell the judge there was nothing they could do. So I started staying with a friend and we both hired lawyers. My lawyer requested that I be allowed to get my things, and he responded by saying I took everything, and nothing was at the house that was mine. A month later, we had a flood at the house that flooded the unfinished basement. He now says he sold my things, gave them away, and what was left was ruined by the flood. When we went to court, this information was given to the judge, but he didn’t do anything except order an appraisal on the house and let my husband stay in the house at this time.
• Meanwhile I have nothing except what I had the night he locked me out and a few things I have bought. Before I retained my attorney, he had his lawyer send me a separation agreement that he wanted me to sign and attached to it was a list of my personal property that he was willing to give to me if I signed it. I didn’t feel it was fair, and I wanted my lawyer to look at it, and when he found out I had a lawyer, he said sign it now, or you will never get anything. He would keep saying if you sign the car over to me, I will give you your things. I signed the car over to him and never got anything. Then he said if you give me the dog, I will provide you with your things I gave him the dog and never got anything. I was also paying all of the bills at the house for three months after he locked me out. I cannot keep staying with this friend. I have no furniture, I want the house, and I want to be allowed back in my own home now.
• Please help me. My husband has taken everything I own, and I lived in that house for 23 years, raised my two sons while he was married to his job, and never home, and I have an emotional attachment to it. That house is all I have left of what I did have. He has taken everything from me, and no one will help me. All my lawyer is saying is the judge will address it. The appraisal also came in, and he is claiming the flood caused damage to the house, so now it has no equity, but six months ago, he said it had 50 thousand in equity. Only the unfinished basement was flooded, and I think he put in a claim in FEMA. No one will let me into my own house that I have owned and still own for the last 23 years to even see what damage there is and if my personal belongings are there. I heard that he is seeing another woman, can he let her move into our house now. Please help me I feel like I have no rights.

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