My question concerns spousal support and division of property. My husband and I have been married for 26 years, live in an affluent community in Westchester County, NY, and we have two children in college. He has had over 20 affairs during this time (I stopped counting) and has been a self-employed attorney & an adjunct business law college professor for 15 years, making approximately 20k annually. He brought student loans with him to the marriage. I got a farm that I had inherited through the death of both of my parents. For the past four years, I am a 50% partner in a successful business and am about to open a new corporation shortly, and have worked our entire marriage. Five years ago, I learned of $250k of credit card debt that he had accumulated in cards with my name on the account, had not paid income taxes (though he told me he did it), and had many delinquent bills. (He insisted that I just sign over my paychecks, and he would take care of the expenses), and so I had to refinance our mortgage, increasing the loan to pay off the cc debt, and the mortgage had to be put in my name only, though he is still on the deed. At that time, I made him close all the cc accounts and opened my separate bank account. Since then, I pay all the household expenses, including all the children’s’ expenses & spending money, college tuitions, mortgage, insurances, utilities, food, travel, etc.….also I have started filing “married filing separate” tax return this year. I have reached the end, and think I would be much happier if I were not in this marriage (this is not because of anyone else, I have never committed adultery), and my children are at an age that they can understand this splitting. But, how likely is it that I will be sucked dry of all that I have worked so hard for (I am 52 yrs. old)? Will I have to give up my house, my company, pay him spousal support, etc.… because he prefers not to work to his ability, likes to stay home, sleep late, etc.? Am I better off just continuing to pay for everything now, and hope that I will outlive him?
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