Divorce Solutions

Oct 26, 2018

Question #19: my wife moved to a new residence approximately 15 months ago. although we are not legally separated, we are in the process of getting divorced. chils support has been the primary issue holding us back. her lawyer claims i should pay 25% of my income for our two children. i wonder if this amount is correct. furthermore, i have the girls 3 days/nights a week therefore facing many of the costs associated with child rearing. i currently make about 72,000 and my wife about 38,000. i want to do what is fair, but i do not want to be taken advantage of. they are currently asking for 1,500 a month, which is impossible for me. any advice.

Answer: The statutory amount required for two children is 25% but only up to the combined incomes of both parents of $80,000; after that it is up to the courts to decide. The exact calculation is complex and not for this message. You are allowed to agree between you to deviate from this statutory amount […]

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Oct 26, 2018

Question #18: My husband and I are talking about a divorce. I live in the Metro NY area. This divorce is of his asking. What can I do, prior to talking with a lawyer to help me secure the house and custody of the children?

Answer: Unless there is physical abuse present, do not move out of the house or leave the children for extended periods ( i.e. days) without first having an understanding in writing about the future ownership of the house or custody of the children. I strongly urge you to consider mediation and give me a call […]

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Oct 26, 2018

Question #17: I was divorced in Ohio in 1995 and have a shared custody agreement for my two girls. I have always paid my child support without exception. I lost my job in January when the technology industry crashed. Despite my total lack of income and meager savings, I maintained my full child-support for 4 months, the time it took for the system to act upon my change of status. My ex-wife is taking me to court believing that my termination was staged!? She is asking that I pay her legal fees. I have found work since at a serious decrease in pay. She is requesting full reinstatement of the $$ at my old jobs rate!! So far, my attorney has told me that I am at risk, and that I will end up paying for her legal fees. I find this amazing in that a horrible event such as losing my job and industry of 20 years places me in this position. Is the system truly this horrific?? Is there anything I can do?? I feel like the good guys finish last in this system..

Answer: If you wish to fight this unfair assessment you must convince the judge that this decrease in salary is not a fluke but is in fact the present salary that is commensurate with the type of skills that you have and that the old salary upon which the original child support was based is […]

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Oct 26, 2018

Question #16: I am in dire need of a divorce; my husband is presently serving six months in jail for his fourth DWI conviction. I have two children ages six and four and would like full custody of my children in order to move out of New York State. Could you help me?

Answer: Under section 170 of the New York State Domestic Relations Law New York State requires grounds for divorce. One of the grounds is confinement of the defendant in prison but such must be for a period of three or more consecutive years after the marriage of plaintiff and defendant. There are other grounds as […]

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Oct 26, 2018

Question #14: What are the statutory child support requirements?

Answer: Each state has its own requirements. The State of New York Domestic Relations Law (D. R. L.) Section 240 provides a complex statutory requirement depending upon the income of the parents and the number of children. The basic amount, however is 17% for 1 child, 25% for two children, 29% for 3 children, and […]

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Oct 26, 2018

Question #13: Would it be considered kidnapping for a mother to take her ownson from husband never divorced yet separated for twelve years?She sent the child to visit 2.5 years ago, and he will not sendhim back. She said that she wants to go get her son. Would thisbe illegal? If need be, what actions should be taken first.He said that he would send him and she even sent a non stop planeticket. I neglected to mention that She lives in Texas and he is Long Island.

Answer: In order to properly answer your question I need additional information. Was the separation a result of a court order or separation agreement between the parties? Did this agreement provide for the custody of the child? If in fact there was no separation agreement or court order, the custody of the child remains with […]

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Oct 26, 2018

Question #10: I was divorced in 1996 in the State of Maine and still live here. My X-wife has custody and is the primary resident parent of two boys, ages at the time, 11 and 12. Now these two boys are interested in moving into my new home until they graduate. They will still go to the same school system. They are now 13 and 14. Can this be stopped against their will? I pay full child support to the state which is deducted from my pay check each week. Will this support be canceled? Can I request child support from my X wife? Thank you.

Answer: In order to properly answer your question I must know whether you entered into a Separation Agreement upon your divorce and was custody of the children given to your spouse. If so, the children would not have a right to decide on their own where they wished to reside. In order to change the […]

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Oct 26, 2018

Question #9: 1. What are CSSA guidelines or court practice in NY for child support for income in excess of 80,000 ? Is it up to mutual agreement between parents? Is the percentage larger or lower than specified percentage ? 2. What are the rules for division of 401K plan ? The money is before taxes so if cash is given to the spouse taxes are subtracted? Is the lump sum distribution to the spouse made into separate IRA kind of account ? 3. Is it possible to reduce 1 yr waiting period in NY ? 4. Can the spouses during waiting period sell the house and move (buy new houses) in different state (NJ) ? Will the NY court accept it?

Answer: The guidelines for income above $80,000 apply the same percentage standard as below $80,000 unless the judge has some reason to apply a different standard. Nevertheless, the parties can usually agree to deviate from the guidelines, as long as they adequately provide for support of the children which includes educational and medical support as […]

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