Question #47: Resident of NY state. We were married here and lived here. We separated 2 months ago, she wanted to be on her own for a while. We had a separation agreement drawn up and signed. I kept 2 of our 3 children, she was allowed to move out of state with our son. No support on either side, I kept house. She now knows she can’t live without the other children and is returning to the area. Her boyfriend whom she left me for, now has a job offer in this area. She has stated if he comes here she would resume her relationship with him. She wants to stay married, but if he takes the job I would like a divorce based on adultery. She has been living in the same apartment with this man in South Dakota. What proof do I need for adultery? If she doesn’t contest to adultery, how quickly would the marriage be dissolved? She believes that since we are separated that she can legally have relations with someone else, and that it would not constitute adultery? I believe she is definitely wrong, so who is right?