In order to concretize your understanding regarding the above issues, you must reduce them to writing in a Separation Agreement which you both must sign. There are other issues that also must be determined, such as child custody, and child support, payment for educational and medical costs of the children. All these and other issues, including determining and dividing the marital property must be done and reduced to writing.
I recommend that you contact an attorney-mediator in your area who has training and experience in divorce matters to provide you with professional assistance.
Leonard M. Weiner, Esq./Divorce Solutions