Divorce Solutions

Jul 09, 2019

Question #273

Hi….I am a stay at home mom of 14 years with several children..some still young. My husband is very controlling and has all the bank information, debit cards, and bank information. He just last night told me he would not give me a penny. I have been living like this for months and feel like there is no way out. He has let the health insurance lapse on my children all the way down to no longer putting gas in the car. I contacted legal aid. They said they couldn’t help. Do you have any advice, or can you refer me to someone? I feel entirely trapped like there is no way out. I contacted crisis services, and they told me he is a domestic abuser..all except physical according to an abuser wheel. I am in NC..do you know of anyone who could help me? I am desperate to get away from this situation.

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Jul 09, 2019

Question #281

Hi, I am a 30-yr old mother of two, my kids’ dad and I have been married for almost 10 yrs come March, I do not have a job per the agreement we made while we were in the same household together, because he didn’t want me to work, only to see about the kids and house, that was cool up until about 4 yrs ago when his mistress, with whom he lives with now, came on the scene. All I want to know is what I am entitled to, or is there any type of financial help I can get. I do receive child support, and one of my kids gets SSI, but it’s still not enough to move into my own place and get a vehicle to carry my child back and to her doctor’s appointments, which I do by myself. I just need to know what I am rightfully entitled to now that we are getting a divorce.

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Jul 09, 2019

Question #282

Hello. I have been married to my 2nd husband since 2006, he is from New Jersey but moved here to Buffalo to marry me and move into my home with my four kids. In 2009 we had a baby girl. I am pretty sure this marriage is heading for divorce, early in the marriage he cheated on me and I found out 2yrs into the marriage. My question is that would I be forced to let him take the baby to new Jersey to have visitation with him there, or would he have to visit her here in Buffalo. Also what is he required to pay in addition to child support, does he have to pay maintenance, I’m a stay at home mom, and only babysit a few days a week. We have a vehicle that has him as a Consignor and has both our names on the bank papers for it. Please could you guide me as to what to do? ( stressed in Buffalo.).

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Jul 09, 2019

Question #293

looked on your website and could not find my exact situation: My husband and I have been married for four years, seven months, and we have (2) children together 11 and 4. He has decided to move out of the home where we currently reside, in which he owns the condo. The condo we live in was put on the market as a short sale and is in the process of being sold. The sale has already been approved. He is now moving to a new apartment alone in 2 weeks and states I can reside in the condo until the short sale comes through. Under my definition, isn’t this abandonment? I work FT, and he is an NYPD employee and retires next year. I also work PT as a professor. Our 11-year-old attends private school, and the younger one is in a private FT daycare, which I currently pay. I cannot afford to pay for their schooling and other bills in the home and also leave to find a new place. He is not talking about payments and seems to feel that as long as we are still living at the condo that is his contribution. We are all under his medical insurance as well. We do not have any property or assets together. The home is under his name and was purchased before we got married. I would like to know what are the steps I need to take to once he moves out in 2 weeks. Thank you.

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Jul 09, 2019

Question #313

I live on long island, NY. I’ve been currently married for almost two years, and we have been talking about getting a divorce. We have a beautiful one-year-old baby boy. I am the only one that works; we rent an apartment/ shared with my mother. She does not work and does not have legal papers(undocumented). If we start the divorce, would I have to give half of my income to her? I don’t mind providing child support, but besides that, is she entitled to anything else? I am 22 at this moment, and my wife is 26.

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Jul 09, 2019

Question #320

If I get married in NYState, and my wife and I get a divorce, and I’m ordered to pay alimony, and she gets remarried..do I still pay?

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Jul 09, 2019

Question #321

My wife of 13 years left my house almost four years ago on her own accord. I have continued to pay her medical and auto insurance during this time period. What am I legally obligated to compensate her in a divorce, might you think? We have no children, and she lives with her adult children from a previous marriage. She was married previously for 25 years and now works babysitting her grandchildren. Might I have to pay part of my pension that I accumulated during our marriage? Does her abandonment have any bearing?

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Jul 09, 2019

Question #322

My husband and I are planning on divorcing within the next year. He has been the primary breadwinner for our 28-year marriage. In the housing crash, he lost his practice (he’s a real estate attorney) & for the past seven years has been working out of the house (not sure of the amount he claims to earn, but I know it’s very little). I recently graduated from nursing school (which I put myself through) & stand to make over 80,000 being an RN on Long Island. He also stopped paying the mortgage over five years ago (my name is not on the mortgage & hasn’t affected my credit) & the house is in pre-foreclosure. I have a small inheritance that I will use for a down payment on a home, which will be home base for my daughters ages 22 & 17. He just told me he is planning on moving to Belize when my 17-year-old goes to college. He also told me he would be handing me the tuition bill as soon as I get an RN position. Does moving out of the country remove his parental obligation to his children? Also, since my salary is obviously on the books & his is not, does that give him any right to it? Thank you in advance for answering the question.

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Jul 09, 2019

Question #327

I live in NYC. My wife of 14 and a half years served me with the divorce papers two weeks ago, and I responded to the summons with a notice of appearance and affidavit of support to avoid default. I have no job, no home to live. I am staying with a friend since she asked me to move out and she took my keys. I did not argue with her about that. Now she wants equitable distribution of marital assets, which is a condo that we bought in full with her money that she gave me as a gift. And of course, now she denies it. Both our names are on the deed. We have no kids, and she helped me pay tuition after she inherited a sizeable amount of money from her parent. Before starting my four years of a professional degree, I told her that I could be content just with my bachelor’s degree to start work and be productive, but she said I should not worry about money.
• I can afford to put you through school. Before starting school, I was working and contributing to the household expenses. When I met her lawyer last year he was threatening me with the O’brian vs O’brian case. This year I heard that this case was reversed. She says that she has no claim on my license. I’m licensed now to practice in Cali but I don’t have any job offer and even if I have an offer I need at least $10 thousand to relocate because I will need a car, a place to rent and shipment of my belongings. Would I ask the judge for alimony, and payment of an attorney to represent me. This has been very stressful. I told her that we don’t have to divorce but she wants out. What shall I do? Please advise.

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