I am 59 years old, and my husband and I have been unofficially separated for 20 years. We both retain ownership in our home on Long Island, although I live there and pay all mortgage payments, bills, etc. He was having an affair that broke up our marriage, and he is still with that woman. I am also residing with someone. We have three grown children. I am earning approximately 55,000 a year, and he is making about 80,000. We file our taxes together. My 401 is vested at about 40,000 and his over 100,000. I have no other asset, and he does have to help me financially as my mortgage payments are very high. I do not want to sell my home, and he has said he would never ask for that. I am the recipient of his insurance policy and 401 upon his death. He is also mine. Right now, he has met another woman of 42 years of age who is insisting he divorce. If we decide to do this, what are the repercussions to me? Would I be entitled to any alimony, share in 401, etc.? We are currently married for 40 years, and if I have to, I will contest this divorce.
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