Day: June 25, 2020

My best friend has been legally married to his wife for three years now, but they have NEVER lived together since getting married. He resides iV.A.VA for work, and she resides in Queens, NY, with their three-year-old daughter. They just got a legal separation document in March of 2008. My question is, since they have not resided together the entire duration of the marriage and they have not slept together in 2 years, do they have to wait out the legal separation period of a year to have a finalized divorce, or can they divorce now? They both agree it is a no-fault divorce. Please advise, he would like to end this marriage sooner rather than later. Thanks!

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my husband and I got married legally in NY October 15, 2007, and religiously married October 19, 2007 ( registered by state oN.Y.NY). But did not start living together until March 14, 2008. I love him a lot even though it was an arranged marriage; he never really accepted the marriage well enough, but from my end, I have fulfilled all the duties of a good wife. His shopping meals the house everything I took care of personally him and my in-laws didn’t treat me kindly, and we were having problems one day he was kicking me out of the house and slapped me and abused me. I called the police, but not intending to get him arrested. I just got scared and thought he needs to understand he can’t treat his wife like that. He was in jail for 24 hours, and now the state put a case against him, and max he will have to pay a fine violation or misdemeanor. And I did everything in my reach to get him out of this trouble. But now he wants a divorce, and he puts grounds of adultery and cruel, inhuman treatment. I know he doesn’t know divorce is a wrong step. I want to stop it by contesting and making him realize we can work it out. But how can he prove inhuman treatment??? can he say I sent him to jail, but he did something wrong, and for that time, he deserved that otherwise, he would not realize his mistake. Did I do anything wrong? I have always had the best favor of him.

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Hi, my husband and I are both residents oN.YNY. We’ve been married for three months and have a 9-month-old child. I am not sure if I can qualify for the grounds to be divorced – I have been verbally and physically abused but never filed a complaint and have no police report. There are a couple of pictures of bruises on my face taken by me at the beginning of the year. I know that my husband will not agree to divorce. We currently stay together but do not communicate. Is there a way to make him leave the apartment (it’s under my name)? And do I have a chance to get divorced? If we stay together for a year but don’t have intimacy, will it be considered as grounds? How can I prove that we aren’t close? Will the child stay with me?

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 Hello, I came across your site, and I have a question for you, My daughter has been married for the past three and a half months. During that time, I would say that most of the marriage has been spent apart and separate. He has been mentally and emotionally cruel to her. In the state of NY, what is the time period she can file for a divorce, and what are the grounds? They have been residents in the state for over ten years.

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I was with my husband for 20 yrs, married for 13. he is an abusive alcoholic drug user. He failed a drug test and admitted to drinking. I endured much abuse in all those yrs. We have three children together. We are in the middle of a custody battle for the two younger ones. I left him five mos ago and went to a SAF house. Now on my own with the two younger ones. I filed for divorce in Dec of 2009. I don’t know how it works as far as separation or divorce. I have met someone. But there have been no intimate relations. If I chose to have intimate relations, how would it affect my divorce? If I decided to have him move in, how would it affect my divorce? What are the laws governing this? If I got a copy of the filing for divorce. Would it protect me? We own many assets, including a business. How long does a divorce take when there were multiple cases of abuse going on? I do have an order of protection, even though he has violated it. But I cannot prove it. Can you please enlighten me? 

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My boyfriend, who has been separated from his wife for more than a year, finally got his papers for divorce last week. In the documents, his bitter wife wrote inhuman and cruel treatment. (we all live in the state of New York Rochester to be exact) he’s had enough with her and just wants to officially not be connected to her. Although he doesn’t agree with the reason, he said he would sign it and mail it back to the divorce lawyer to get it over. We don’t have money for a lawyer; they have no kids, no house, no assets basically, and the debt they had. They split it in half and have no ties.
We did not know all this divorce terminology and called the same divorce lawyer who said he would not have to go to court, and it will be an easy divorce. (I am unsure if he was looking at the interest of the divorcee or divorcer) anyway, we wanted to get married eventually. We were wondering if he needs to think twice about what he is about to sign; especially if he doesn’t agree with it (will he go to jail for admitting inhuman and cruel treatment even though that is not the case?) is it a clean divorce since they don’t have any tips? Would it jeopardize him when he remarries in this same state? And is there even such thing as having a divorce and not even going to a court? How long does this usually take from when he does sign? Sorry for all the questions we called a legal aide who said to go ahead and sign it there should not be a problem, but I can’t help but think there is another meaning to her (wife) ways and if she tried to trick him since she was holding out for so long and is upset he is moving on? Please help.

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 I was told that you answer questions about divorce. I would very much like your help. I was married in NY. State in May of 1998. We all still live there. The marriage produced two children. I have walked out on him due to an online extra-marital with a woman. We have gone to family court, and we both have joint legal custody of the children. I have asked for a divorce, but he has refused. I do not wish to change the custody arrangements. However, my question is: how may I secure a divorce as soon as possible? I was told by a friend it was possible to go to Reno, Nevada, and receive one immediately without his signature. Is that doable? If not, how else can I obtain one asap? Thank you.

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My boyfriend and I have been together since 2000. I found out he is married. He moved in with me. His wife knew about me and called my home. He went back to her. They took a vacation together. He came back to me. They sold their marital home and split the money 50/ 50. He moved into an apartment. I moved in with him. They have not seen or spoken to each other in over ten years. She bought a new home. He bought a new home. What would the grounds for divorce be? I am under the impression that it could not be for adultery since she slept with him after she knew about me. How can divorce proceedings be started without him having to speak with her?

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 My husband of 3 years and I separated because of his infidelity. I have phone records, emails, etc. as proof. We married and resided in NYC. If I sue him for divorce because he committed adultery, what does that entitle me? We have no children and did not own a home or anything else together. Is there anything to gain by making this the reason we’re divorcing, or is it the same if I just go the friendly route and claim irreconcilable differences? Please advise. 

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Please tell me what can be done in my sad situation: My is name is Anna, I have a question to ask, I’m with a mature gentleman who’s legally married but separated. He told me he’d rather send legal wife her money because he feels threatened that she is going to take him to the poor house because he receives his veteran’s check, social security, and job pension, and that’s the real reason why he cannot divorce her. He lives in Puerto Rico, and his wife lives in Buffalo, New York. Note: They never had children together, I live in New York City, and he has been separated from her for a very long time. Before me, he formulated another relationship after his separation, and all the while, he remained married paying alimony. My concern is I talked to him about why he should divorce because she has eight adult children of her own from a previous marriage; he married her for her religious reasons when he fell in love with her. He doesn’t own any real estate property that I’m aware of, and now his legal wife receives social security because she is also a mature lady plus alimony.
I’m not a homewrecker; their marriage dissolved way before I came into the picture. And now they live miles away from each other for several years. I told him to find a lawyer in Puerto Rico or here to help because I don’t want to be the other woman. I want to be the new legal wife. When he was living in Buffalo, New York, before moving to Puerto Rico, he fell seriously ill with a heart problem. He was hospitalized, his back then common-law wife if you will, couldn’t stay at the hospital to be by his bedside because his separated “wife” after learning what happened to him showed up, declaring her status as being his wife. She showed proof, therefore stopping anyone she didn’t want there from seeing him. She did nothing for him but get her alimony money. That’s not right, but it proves that the title “wife” carries a lot of weight.
He said that a judge signed an order for legal separation and that he has to support her whether he likes it or not and that a divorce is impossible, but he never showed me any paperwork proof, etc., stating or proving that it’s true. Seeing is believing, but I decided that if he doesn’t want to get a divorce because he is scared of losing more money to her and that it is an uncomfortable, complicated, costly process for him, I’m not going to press on insisting, I know when no means no, and I’ll leave it alone. And I assume that he doesn’t love me enough to get a divorce, and I will pursue to have a new relationship with a man who is not married or legally divorce with papers to prove it, so I don’t have to write to no lawyer. I know that Ex-New York State Governor Paterson signed a revised divorce order, perhaps that can hopefully change things. She’s tossed in Buffalo, he’s retired and lives in Puerto Rico going on four years over there, I can’t understand why he can’t divorce? I suppose she would have to pay a lawyer if she wants to contest. I believe that he can get a divorce if he wants to since they don’t live in the same place, but you know more than me. I hope you can give me some good news. Thank you.

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