You are absolutely correct.
It is much more advisable to deal with the issue now while you are both in the talking and negotiation mood and determine precisely how much your obligations will be. Some people link the obligation to the cost of tuition at a local state-run university ( such as CUNY or SUNY ) at the time when the child will be attending college. There are also several other options.
Many other issues must be dealt with, and these are too important to leave to self-help. I strongly suggest that you have an attorney experienced in matrimonial matters represent you. If you are living in the New York City metropolitan area, please call me at 212-370-160 0 to arrange for a meeting to discuss the matter at greater length.
Leonard M. Weiner, Esq./Divorce Solutions