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Question #81

Do I have grounds for a divorce?? Here’s my story. My wife has been out late a lot lately. I was talking to a fellow male military member. Finally, on Labor Day weekend after not going with us to camp (she had to work), she was supposed to arrive on Sunday a little after 3 pm. after numerous phone calls to her cell phone and my home, finally her mother and I packed the kids up at 10:45 pm and went home thinking the worst. When I got back, there was no car there. I immediately checked the answering machine thinking car accident – nothing. I guess I realized that she would be at this other man’s house. It was now midnight. I got to his house, and there she was. I rang the doorbell for a minute, and it took about 2 mins to the door. She was in the back of the living room in an uncomfortable computer chair with her hair messed up. I went outside with her and asked what do you want to do, stay here or come home and talk; she kept telling me I don’t know. I finally left. I stopped by the navy gate shack to file a report; at that time, I didn’t. I left for home appr. One hour later, a rep from the navy called and asked me if I wanted her to come home or go to a hotel as she was asked to leave military housing. I said I want her to come back.
When she arrived, she barely said a word. After trying to talk, I gave up and tried to sleep. I got up and went to the bathroom when I was in the bathroom I saw on the floor a bag with night clothes that she wears, toiletries and condoms. (I had a vasectomy in 2001. these condoms were from my drawer and forgotten until now.) I went downstairs and asked her what these were were she said “whatever.” I tried then again to sleep. I found I couldn’t. She had all the money, and I needed cigs bad by now. So I went into her purse and found condoms again. I yelled, grabbed the money, took both bags of condoms and went down to the navy base, and filed a nine-page report telling about that night, and numerous times she’s been late when talking to him. Then I went home. By this time, my mother spoke to her, and she said she would tell him she would not speak to him anymore. Then I said if she did that, I would get the report back.
I did, and she did. I now find through phone records that she called him the same day when I was sleeping and has continued to do so. He now says I am following him and has pictures of this. I am not. She does not want to be married, is continually verbally abusive to me, and we still live in the same house. I gave her the bags of condoms, trying to make her see that I just want to be together. So now no report, no evidence, no nothing. Last week I found a card addressed to him saying she couldn’t wait to be in his arms again. Do I have grounds for a divorce??? I can’t let her continue to try and argue with me in front of the kids. I want physical custody, and she’s been staying out late still. I keep a journal of it. So I am asking you: do I have grounds for a divorce, and what if any are my chances??

Assuming that you can provide evidence of such events, I believe you’ll have enough grounds to sue for divorce based on adultery. It will be up to the judge to hear your testimony and to hear the testimony of your wife. He will then decide if you have proven the grounds upon which you are basing your divorce claim.

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Leonard M. Weiner, Esq.