I came across your site on the Internet. My wife and I have been married for just over 14 years. She is not in love with me. As far as I can tell, she has been faithful, and I know I have been. We, emotionally and physically, have been separated for about eight months. We live in the same house. We have three kids together. We are friends. Like roommates. We have no real assets. She can have the house. The kids–with an agreed-upon sharing system–which we have discussed and both find comfortable. I will pay child support, above and beyond, to ensure they can maintain a similar quality of living. (As I am now hunting for an affordable apartment within the area). I work two jobs, and my wife works one. Finances were probably a big reason behind our falling apart. The truth is, I’m not even sure how we can afford to pay for a divorce. Anyway, you can send us some information on avoiding courtrooms, lawyers, and just move on amicably to divorce us?
Divorce is too important an issue to leave to self-help. I strongly advise you to contact an experienced matrimonial attorney-mediator in your area who is familiar with the matrimonial courts in your jurisdiction to help you. These matters must be handled appropriately from a legal perspective to make sure that the issues involved will not come back to haunt you later on in life.
From your brief discussion above, it sounds like you worked out many of the issues involved, and it should not take much legal time for your attorney-mediator to prepare the necessary papers.
Leonard M. Weiner, Esq./Divorce Solutions