Divorce Solutions

Oct 27, 2018

Question #31: I caught my husband having an affair in a hotel this September. I went to an attorney to have a separation agreement drawn up which my husband will not sign because in it I have that I do not want our three year old daughter around this woman. Can I get a divorce on the grounds of adultery without having a separation agreement seeing that he is refusing to sign it unless I take that “restriction” out of the agreement. He admitted to the affair and to being with her once before in a hotel. On both occasions, he said he was going on a motorcycle ride with his Local union friends and both times he met her in a hotel. She is also married, living in Texas with her husband and five children. What are my options?

You did not indicate what say you are located in but in the state of New York adultery is one of the grounds upon which you may base your motion for divorce. You do not need your husband’s consent in order to make a motion to the court for divorce. You’ll have to serve him […]

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Oct 27, 2018

Question #30: After the Divorce has been filed what are the procedures that a person has to go through that live in new york state?

Assuming that all of the documents you filed were correct and prepared properly, as required under law, these documents would have to be reviewed by the clerk’s office which deals specifically with divorce and matrimonial matters, and upon the clerk’s approval, the documents will be sent to a judge for the judge’s signature on the […]

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Oct 27, 2018

Question #29: My husband moved out of the house and has mentioned his intention to file for a legal separation. We have been married for 18 years and have 2 children. What exactly does this mean? If we decide to get back together what is involved in removing the legal separation? Will we have to remarry? We live in Missouri.

A legal Separation Agreement, if prepared properly by experience legal counsel, will include provisions permitting you and your spouse to live separately, to divide your marital property, will provide which spouse will be the residential parent of the children, whether one or both of you will have custody, to provide for spousal support if necessary, […]

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Oct 27, 2018

Question #28: Seven years ago, I was married in New Jersey State by a Justice of the Peace with a New York State marriage license (which I never received a copy of). On this marriage license, I am completely sure that my name was spelled incorrectly. Does this invalidate it? We were married a year and a half when I found out she was pregnant. I had never had intercourse with her without contraceptives. I thought it was mine, and had a court-ordered DNA test done after the baby was born, which she refused to take until they at least got her to consent to a blood test. The blood test came out as the baby being B+, when she was A- and I have a very rare blood type: ABO-. Therefore, the baby could not be mine. A friend that had been living with us matched the blood type but we never got the DNA from him because he passed away. She abandoned me, and went to her mother. Three months later, I filed for custody, until I found out from the blood work that the child was not mine. Now that you have all the background circumstances, what is the time frame of being separated (as we were automatically separated upon finding out the baby was not mine) before it is considered a legal divorce without going to court? I no longer live in New York state,however she is still in New York.

If you did not enter into a legal Separation Agreement, which meets the statutory requirements under New York Domestic Relations Law, you are considered legally married no matter how long you are physically separated from each other. There is no such thing as “considered a legal divorce” without filing the proper papers. I strongly urge […]

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Oct 27, 2018

Question #27: My wife presented me a written statement to which I have held as a premarital agreement. It was written by her and signed by her. I did not sign one at the time since I was living check to check. Fourteen years later I have acquired a house, a pension, and 401(k). Will such agreement hold up in a divorce proceeding?

Nice try but no cigar! Your written statement from your wife, given the information you provided, does not appear to meet the requirements necessary for a legal premarital agreement. Once again, I cannot overemphasize the need for individuals who are involved in premarital agreements, or separation and divorce proceedings, to retain an experienced mediator-attorney to […]

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Oct 27, 2018

Question #26: What is the difference of divorce & a legal separation?

In the State of the New York both divorce and legal separation require grounds. Irreconcilable differences are not sufficient to obtain either a divorce or separation. The difference is in the result. Once the judgment of divorce is executed by the judge, the parties are free to remarry, whereas, a legal separation allows the parties […]

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Oct 27, 2018

Question #25: I have been married for 10 years. My husband & I are selling our house (no children/pets – house is only asset). The closing is 1 mo. or so away & I have to make decisions quickly. We have not been getting along, but don’t hate each other (just lots of mistrust). Should we get a legal separation if we plan to live apart? What liability am I assuming if I don’t get separated & we are living apart? What if we decide to live together & we want to keep our money separate?

I cannot overemphasize the necessity to get a legal separation which should be prepared by a experienced matrimonial attorney in your area . By remaining separate but not legally separated all of the assets ( e. g. a house, condo, 401-K, etc.) which either you acquire are still considered marital assets and the other party […]

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Oct 27, 2018

Question #24: What are the grounds for a legal separation in NY? I once heard a rumor that after being legally separeted for a period of one year, the divorce is automatic. Is there any truth to this?

The grounds for separation in NY are the same as the grounds for divorce. One of the grounds upon which a divorce may be filed is having entered into a written separation agreement properly executed by both parties and, upon the passing of one year from such execution, either party may file for divorce based […]

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