Assuming that you can provide evidence of such events, I believe you’ll have enough grounds to sue for divorce based on adultery. It will be up to the judge to hear your testimony and to hear the testimony of your wife and to decide if in fact you have proven the grounds upon which you are basing your divorce claim.
I cannot overemphasize the benefits of mediating, as opposed to litigating, your divorce. It will save you much time, money, and aggravation. If you are located in the New York City metropolitan area, please call me at 212-370-1660 to discuss the matter at greater length.
Leonard M. Weiner, Esq.