You must fulfill the requirements for grounds for an annulment. Which include fraud in the inducement to marry, under age, or bigamy, etc. Please be aware that there are records in New York of annulments as there are records of divorces. If in fact, your husband has committed adultery that is grounds for you to proceed to get a divorce.
In order to determine whether you qualify for an annulment or a divorce, we would have to review the facts in more detail.
I strongly suggest that you mediate your annulment/divorce. It will save you time and money and much aggravation.
If you are living in the New York City metropolitan area, please call me at 212-370-1660 to arrange for a meeting to discuss the matter at greater length.
Leonard M. Weiner, Esq./Divorce Solutions