Question #19: I don’t think you are able to help me. I have a restraining order against my husband and we have been separated for almost a year. We both live in Washington state but he is from NY and is flying back there this week. I believe he is going to try and file divorce there with the help of his family, who aren’t entirely honest people. I have had to hold off on the divorce because of immigration issues. I am from Canada and am self-petitioning. He does not see the kids, or pay child support. If i had my way he could just stay in NY. I was just wondering how I defend myself if he files there. I don’t think mediation is the answer for us. If you can help in any way further, and can refer me to someone who can, I would appreciate it though. Thank you very much for your help. Oh and his girlfriend is pregnant and he wants the divorce done quickly and in the state of Washington its a minimum 92 days then proceedings. So I think that’s why he is doing it out there. Again, Thank you for your help.