You are absolutely right. First discuss the main issues and
Come to an understanding. Then draft the relevant provisions.
Do not consent to a boilerplate agreement. The decisions you make
Will affect your future and are too important to try to squeeze
Into a form.
You need separate legal counsel. This is too important a matter to leave to self help.
I strongly suggest that you consider mediating your divorce.
If you are living in the NYC metro area, please call me at 212-370-1660 to discuss the matter at greater length.
Leonard M. Weiner, Esq./Divorce Solutions