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Jun 24, 2020

Question #39

I reside in the Province of Ontario, Canada. My daughter, who is 20 years of age, has recently left her boyfriend for approximately three years. The relationship produced a son now about 1 and 1/2 years of age. The initial break up was initiated by the boyfriend, who sent her to Canada with a letter of authorization stating that she can take their son to Canada. The question I have is: My daughter has decided that she does not want to return to an abusive relationship (the boyfriend has been verbally abusive for most of the time they have been together in front of various witnesses) and has decided that she is safer and has more family support both for herself and her son in Canada. She has no support whatsoever in New York and does not want to go back to the abusive relationship. The boyfriend has now decided he wants her back and has been harassing her constantly. What steps can my daughter take to obtain full custody of her son, and does the boyfriend have any rights to “force” her to come back to New York and bring the baby back?

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Jun 24, 2020

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Nov 2006, I was granted a divorce by Nassau County in NY. I have three children, and I am currently paying my ex-wife $2500 / month for maintenance and $2500.00/month in child support. Also, I pay $5000.00/year towards extra-curricular activities for the children. My gross annual income before paying alimony and child support is $110,000. I have two questions I would love to have answered. 1) Shortly after the divorce was finalized, my ex-wife informed me that she was starting a county job after the New Year. (she was unemployed throughout our 15-year marriage). I don’t know what her salary is at this new job, but I can estimate that she is making about $35,000 – $40,000/year. My question is, can I petition the courts to reduce the child support payment or the $5000 extra-curricular payment? How soon can I do this? Is there a waiting period with the courts since the divorce was finalized three months ago? 2)My children’s ages are 12(G), 9(B), and 6(B). My ex always complains that she doesn’t want to ‘waste’ money on a babysitter. Recently on my ex’s scheduled weekend, my daughter was participating in a dance competition in another state, which my ex was attending. This was for two nights. I offered to take the two boys for the weekend, but my ex told me no since she had it under control and taken care of already. When questioned, who would be watching the boys, she told me to “F” myself and that it was none of my business. I kept asking, and she eventually hung up on me – never returning my calls. The next day she went off to the dance competition in another state – I drove past the house no my way home from work, and no one was there. I called the house five times and left two voicemails, but no one answered, and no one returned my calls. I then called my ex on her cell phone and left her a voicemail telling her that I wanted to know where the boys were. I explained that I just wanted to make sure they were ok. Long story short, I had to threaten her, telling her that I would call the cops since she was out of town and I couldn’t find my two boys. She then called the boys and told the oldest (9 yrs) to call me. When I questioned her about the contact details that she gave to this person watching them, she said to me that “Dan (9 yr old) knows how to contact you – your number is in the book”. I never heard from my kids that night. I called their house early the next morning, and my oldest son answered. My ex’s boyfriend of 3 months was watching them for the weekend. When I asked my son what number he had for me, he confirmed it was a cell that I haven’t owned in 4 years. I am truly upset that (1) she went out of town without telling me who was watching the kids (2) that she didn’t make sure that the person watching them had my contact details and vice versa (what would happen if something went wrong with the kids and my ex is out of state??? I am very active in their lives. I go to every (try to)sporting event, and I have them every other weekend and every Tuesday. During the Christmas break, I took time off from work and had them for the entire week. I was generous to my ex financially because I wanted to make sure the kids would be taken care of, when in fact, my youngest comes with holes in his shoes. My concern is this summer. I am already paying a bunch to her, and I am fearful that she won’t get proper babysitters. What can I do? What are my rights?

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Jun 24, 2020

Question #45

I’ve been together for 12yrs and married for 8yrs with my wife. We have two children (6,10yrs). My wife wants the divorce, and I’ve opposed it because I’m trying to remediate the situation. She cheated 6 yrs. ago and again on July 06 and Mar 06. the reason I still want her is that she will take my kids away, and she will cause me to move out of the house and sell this house and another property. She earns 3x less than I. In other words; she will take me to the poor house. I could not afford everything we now have or live on my own once we divorce. I will have to pay child support and spousal support and private school. I earn in the mid 60,000. Can I have an opportunity to gain sole custody of the kids since I’ve been a good father and want the family together for the kids’ sake?

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