For the sake of the children it’s important to try to see if you can reconstruct your trust and relationship with your spouse. Since you confronted him and he has admitted his guilt, has he expressed any remorse? Is he willing to commit to absolutely refrain from such activity in the future? These are questions you should be asking him and seeing if there is still room to reconstruct the trust and relationship that you had prior to this event. You should also try family counseling before you jump to divorce.
In the event, however, that you try family counseling or that he is absolutely refusing to go to family counseling and expresses no remorse , then you must consider divorce and if so, I strongly suggest that you mediate your divorce with an experienced attorney mediator.
If you are living in the New York City metropolitan area, please call May at 212-370-1660 to arrange for a meeting to discuss the matter at greater length.
Leonard M. Weiner, Esq./Divorce Solutions