Do I have grounds for a divorce?? Here’s my story. My wife has been out late a lot lately. I was talking to a fellow male military member. Finally, on Labor Day weekend after not going with us to camp (she had to work), she was supposed to arrive on Sunday a little after 3 pm. after numerous phone calls to her cell phone and my home, finally her mother and I packed the kids up at 10:45 pm and went home thinking the worst. When I got back, there was no car there. I immediately checked the answering machine thinking car accident - nothing. I guess I realized that she would be at this other man’s house. It was now midnight. I got to his house, and there she was. I rang the doorbell for a minute, and it took about 2 mins to the door. She was in the back of the living room in an uncomfortable computer chair with her hair messed up. I went outside with her and asked what do you want to do, stay here or come home and talk; she kept telling me I don’t know. I finally left. I stopped by the navy gate shack to file a report; at that time, I didn’t. I left for home appr. One hour later, a rep from the navy called and asked me if I wanted her to come home or go to a hotel as she was asked to leave military housing. I said I want her to come back.
When she arrived, she barely said a word. After trying to talk, I gave up and tried to sleep. I got up and went to the bathroom when I was in the bathroom I saw on the floor a bag with night clothes that she wears, toiletries and condoms. (I had a vasectomy in 2001. these condoms were from my drawer and forgotten until now.) I went downstairs and asked her what these were were she said “whatever.” I tried then again to sleep. I found I couldn’t. She had all the money, and I needed cigs bad by now. So I went into her purse and found condoms again. I yelled, grabbed the money, took both bags of condoms and went down to the navy base, and filed a nine-page report telling about that night, and numerous times she’s been late when talking to him. Then I went home. By this time, my mother spoke to her, and she said she would tell him she would not speak to him anymore. Then I said if she did that, I would get the report back.
I did, and she did. I now find through phone records that she called him the same day when I was sleeping and has continued to do so. He now says I am following him and has pictures of this. I am not. She does not want to be married, is continually verbally abusive to me, and we still live in the same house. I gave her the bags of condoms, trying to make her see that I just want to be together. So now no report, no evidence, no nothing. Last week I found a card addressed to him saying she couldn’t wait to be in his arms again. Do I have grounds for a divorce??? I can’t let her continue to try and argue with me in front of the kids. I want physical custody, and she’s been staying out late still. I keep a journal of it. So I am asking you: do I have grounds for a divorce, and what if any are my chances??