Divorce law is generally controlled by state statute. Therefore each state has its divorce laws, just as the marriage had to take place under the jurisdiction of a particular state, so also the divorce must take place under the authority of a specific state. Each state has its residency requirements before it will entertain the divorce proceeding, and you and your spouse must qualify under one of the residency requirements. I suggest you contact an attorney-mediator specially trained in divorce mediation in the state in which you are a resident and consult with an regarding the jurisdiction question and the proper place to file.
These matters require legal expertise and should be done in consultation with an experienced attorney in the state which has jurisdiction over your marital situation. It is not something a layman on the internet should be relied upon to resolve.
Leonard M. Weiner, Esq./Divorce Solutions