I order for New York to have jurisdiction you must be living in NYS for 1 or 2 years depending on Specific circumstances. It appears from your description of the situation that CA has jurisdiction.
You must respond to the Summons and Complaint.
I strongly suggest that you speak to your wife about mediating rather than litigating the divorce, which can be conducted here in my office in NYC.
Please call me to discuss the matter in greater length.
Leonard Weiner, Esq./Divorce Solutions