Based on the information you provided, if your spouse has been living in New York for a year or more, she may file for divorce in New York. Part of the process of filing the Summons and Complaint is to serve the defendant personally. You can be served personally in Turkey or can agree to waive service. If you both cooperate and try to mediate the divorce, you will be doing yourselves a great favor, and with the proper legal guidance can achieve the non-adversarial divorce you seek.
If your spouse is located in the New York City metropolitan area, please have her contact me at 212-370-1660 to discuss the matter further.
Leonard M. Weiner, Esq./Divorce Solutions