My wife & I were married for 17 years, during which she has been very violent & unstable. We based on complete lies reside in Suffolk County, NY. We have two children together, ages 17 & 12. We have been discussing divorce for a while now. We had agreed that I would move out & we would mediate the divorce, but she threw me for a loop. Out of nowhere, and based on complete lies, she hits me with a stay-away order that she got from the family court. This was only three days before I was moving out anyway. She closed all of our bank accounts, took all of our tax refund money, took all the money from her 401k, even took the last $300 I had in my pocket! I am currently on unemployment while she works full-time. She managed to hire herself a fancy lawyer (with what is half my money), and I can’t afford to pay my rent. She filed for divorce & served me already, grounds being cruel & inhumane treatment. I cannot afford an attorney. All of my credit cards have been shut off & all my assets disappeared. My question is, what if I choose to ignore her summons to buy time to save up some money? Can she be granted a divorce if I don’t respond? I have contacted the Modest-Means Committee in Nassau/Suffolk County & was told I don’t qualify for assistance. No decent attorney will take the case without several thousand dollars that I don’t have. The biggest issue in the divorce is custody. My kids want to live with me, but she won’t even allow them to visit right now. Please help!