I have lived in a nightmare for the past two years. My husband of 31 years cheated on me with my so-called best friend. Not only was she my friend, but for the last two years she worked for me, and I had no recourse at work but to work alongside her; otherwise, I would have lost my 21-year job. Because I live in this Great New York, the laws are terrible. I had emails that they shared and cards and also copies of his poems to her. Since they were not caught in the act, I cannot sue for adultery. I have been back and forth in court for the last year, and since it is a NO FAULT state, me, the innocent party suffers. I am 50K in debt with one lawyer who I dismissed, and now I have another lawyer, and it still goes on. What makes matters worse is that I make more money then he does, so since I do and he has no benefits, I have to share all of my retirement benefits.
To make matters worse, he wants survivor benefits; not only survivor benefits but my Paid Time Off. He wants half of that when I retire. Let’s see, oh yes, he wanted support, he wants me to have a life insurance policy, the list goes on and on. Well, New York has no laws on this either, so all he has received by the District Attorney and the Judges here in Putnam County, but a slap on the wrist. I have to sell the house, and all I do is clean up his mess.