You most definitely need a written Separation Agreement which should be prepared by an experienced matrimonial attorney. This is a matter that is too important to leave to self-help or inexperience. If you do not cover all of the issues adequately, it could come back to haunt you later in life.
She does not have to be present in NYC while the Separation Agreement is
drafted, as long as she is cooperating with the process and is available by telephone.
Please call me at 212-370-1660 to arrange for a meeting to discuss the matter at greater length.
Leonard M. Weiner, Esq./Divorce Solutions