Divorce Solutions

Oct 30, 2018

Question #72: Several months ago, my wife asked me for a separation. This was quite a shock to me. I then became aware that my wife was involved in an affair with a married man. When I questioned her about this, she denied it vehemently and stated that she wanted a temporary separation with the hope of an eventual reconciliation. I then documented irrefutably with a licensed private investigator that my wife indeed was involved in an affair. I confronted her with the evidence and, long story short, after several months of marriage counseling, we are headed for a divorce. We have two young children who we have tentatively agreed to “share parent”. Our house will most likely have to be sold. I have suffered enormous emotional trauma as a direct result of the affair, and also enormous financial damage- private investigator bills, attorney fees, and all the expense that will now be involved in maintaining two homes. I am hoping for an amicable resolution to these issues, however, I have three questions: 1. Would “collaborative lawyers” be a good idea for me (my wife wants to go this way)? 2. As far as distribution of marital property, does this documented adultery entitle me to a larger percentage than would normally be the case (or at least reimbursement of such expenses as private investigators)? 3. How successful would a civil suit against the other man potentially be and has this been tried in the past?(I have definite evidence that he plotted with my wife to get me to leave my home before I knew of the affair but I don’t think it would be usable in a New York court). Thank you.

Unfortunately, not all expenses and not all emotional pain can be recompensed by a lawsuit. It is important that you and your spouse sit down and discuss amicably resolving the issues before you in separating and ultimately getting a divorce in a way that will cause the least amount of additional, emotional pain to you […]

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Oct 30, 2018

Question #67: Here’s my situation: I got married in 1990 in Panama. The marriage was registered in the consulate there. In 1994 we moved to NY with our son. In 1996 we separated amicably but not legally and because my wife was still establishing her immigration status we left it at that. We shared custody of our son and I provided child support. Two years ago I moved to Mexico. Now… my (ex) wishes to marry her boyfriend and my girlfriend would be so much happier if I were no longer to be married. How can we get a divorce as quickly and easily as possible. I’m not a legal resident here so the Mexican divorce is out. What can we do? I can’t go back and forth from Mx to NY for court and I can’t stay there for a couple months either. HELP!

If your wife is still a resident of New York State, we can file the divorce in New York. We can mediate all of the issues involved including child custody and child support and the divorce over the phone and you will not have to make any appearances in New York State. if you are […]

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Oct 30, 2018

Question #62: My wife and I have been married for 2 1/2 years. We were married in NY and she still resides there. We have decided to divorce. The split is very amicable and there are no children and no property to split. Although I did briefly speak with an attorney to better understand the options, both of us would like to get this over with quickly and with as little drama as possible. Is this the sort of thing that you do and approximately how long is the process and how much should I expect it to cost? Thank you.

This is precisely what I do! Although I am an attorney, I do not represent either party but remain a neutral throughout the mediation process, guiding the parties through all of the necessary issues that need to be discussed and decided, offering alternative resolutions when an impasse seems to be at hand, and drafting the […]

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Oct 30, 2018

Question #58: Thank you, I recently learned about mediation, and how it may be an better alternative to a court battle. My concern is, my wife is still in Indiana. I am not sure how it can be done, from what I have read, mediation is done with both spouses present. I thank you for your time.

I have successfully conducted mediations with couples in different states through telephone conferencing . Let me know if you would like to discuss the matter further. Leonard M. Weiner, Esq./ Divorce Solutions

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Oct 30, 2018

Question #49: Do you offer recommendations for the best way to address the needs of the children so that they may come out of the divorce with the least amount of psychological damage?

At DIVORCE SOLUTIONS the psychological and emotional needs of the children are paramount. During the course of the mediation at DIVORCE SOLUTIONS, the psychological and emotional needs of each of the children and the parties is of major concern as well as the other needs of the children (i.e. residential security, financial stability, etc.).

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Oct 30, 2018

Question #46: My husband and I are both US citizens. I am leaving in June on a work Visa for Australia. I may decide after thinking in Australia to divorce him. We have no assets or no bills to consider. Can I divorce him through the mail without being present in the US or do I have to come home to do it?

If you are located in the New York City metropolitan area, I can help you when you are ready. Please call me at 212-370-1660.you will not have to be present in New York but we will need the cooperation of your spouse to file the divorce papers. Leonard M. Weiner, Esq./Divorce Solutions

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