Question #116: I came across your site on the Internet. My wife and I have been married juts over 14 years. She is not in love with me. As far as I can tell, she has been faithful, and I know I have been. We, emotionally and physically, have been seperated about 8 months. We live in the same house. We have three kids together. We are friends. Like roomates. We have no real assets. She can have the house. The kids–with an agreed upon sharing system–which we have discussed, and are both comfortable with. I will pay child support, above and beyond to ensure they can maintain a similiar quality of living. (As I am now hunting for an affordable apartment within the area). I work two jobs, my wife works one. Finances were probably a big reason behind our falling apart. Truth is, I’m not even sure how we can afford paying for a divorce. Anyway you can send us some information on avoiding courtrooms, lawyers, and just move on in an amicable fashion to divorce us?

Divorce is too important an issue to leave to self-help . I strongly advise you to contact an experienced matrimonial attorney-mediator in your area , who is familiar with the matrimonial courts in your jurisdiction to help you. It is important that these matters be handled properly from a legal perspective to make sure that the issues involved will not come back to haunt you later on in life.

From your brief discussion above it sounds like you worked out many of the issues involved , and it should not take much legal time for your attorney-mediator to prepare the necessary papers.

Leonard M. Weiner, Esq./Divorce Solutions